Wedding planning can lead to all kinds of potential strife between a bride and her future mother-in-law. The bride wants tulips for the centerpieces, mommie-in-law-dearest wants lilies; the bride want sit-down service at the dinner, eventual mother-in-law wants a buffet. There’s an endless list of details to disagree on.
But a recent question to Slate’s Dear Prudence has managed to surprise even the jaded Internet in the absurdity of a request from one bride’s future mother-in-law.
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The bride gets straight to the point: “My future mother-in-law would like to wear her wedding dress to our wedding,” she begins the letter.
Pick your jaw up off the floor, you read that correctly. As we all know, the main job of any wedding guest is to not pull focus from the bride. Wearing one’s wedding dress to another person’s nuptials seems to run counter to that dictate for some reason…
Although the bride claims her fiance’s mother so far has been a “very kind, considerate person,” she’s understandably concerned. As someone who was taught it’s in poor form to so much as wear a white cocktail dress to the reception, I’m beside myself in horror.
What could possibly be going through this mother-in-law-to-be’s mind? Is she feeling a little Miss Havisham as her son prepares to start his married life? Does she have her heart set on bringing back the leg-o-mutton sleeve and four-foot-wide tulle skirts? Is she upset she only got to wear such an expensive dress once?
Did she have a total break from reality?
Prudence minces no words and calls the mother-in-law “deranged” (which frankly reads as an understatement) and advises the son to speak to his mother about her request’s inappropriateness. If I were sonny boy, I’d elope immediately: Having your mother want to wear a wedding dress to your wedding is just too Jocasta (that would be Oedipus’s mother/wife) for words.
Here’s hoping this can be resolved without Thorazine or electro convulsive therapy. Good luck, bride-to-be, you’re going to need it.